Before I cruise: inspiration from another solo traveler

Leading up to this cruise, another solo traveler that I love and miss has been on my mind lately. Throughout my life, my Aunt Margaret (my maternal grandfather's baby sister) has been a role model for me. Like me, she was a college graduate (back when not a lot of women graduated from college). Like me, she married at a fairly late age for her generation, and never had any kids. Like me, she found herself single again (widowed) at a fairly young age. She was wise, kind, generous, loving, accepting, and ahead of her time. This coming December will make 15 years that she's been gone. I still miss her.

After Aunt Margaret found herself widowed, she took it as an opportunity to pursue her dreams. She retired from her teaching job and started traveling the world. Oh the places she went! She didn't wait for another man to show up--she just did it! She never did remarry, but that didn't stop her from living a joyful, content life that had an overwhelmingly positive impact on her family, friends, and church.

Aunt Margaret continues to be a role model for me. To me, she is proof positive that a joyful, rich life is possible for a single-again woman. Yes, I would still like to marry again someday. Even if that opportunity never comes, it doesn't mean that my life is over by any stretch of the imagination. I've still got places to go,  people to love on, and positive vibes to spread. In a sense, my life is just beginning!

At some point during this cruise, I will sip on an adult beverage and toast her memory. :)

"No expectations, no disappointments."

"No expectations, no disappointments" may very well become my new mantra.

Don't get me wrong--this doesn't apply to my life overall. I have been blessed in so many ways since I've been on my own again; I can't really complain. I've got a job that I like and that pays well, supportive family and friends, a great church, and a variety of hobbies and interests that keep me busy.

The one area of my life that has left me disappointed has been dating. Despite getting out there and socializing, I have not been asked out on one single date. Any attempts in approaching guys I'm interested in going out with have failed miserably, leaving me feeling hurt. I've done a lot over the past 1.5 years to improve myself and I believe that I have a lot to offer someone special, so why isn't anything happening? God only knows.

What's a girl to do?

Go live her life.

At this point, I have resolved to live my life as if nobody will show up. That's partially why I'm going on this cruise. I could wait for a man to take me on one, but with my luck, it might not happen. I don't want to be at the end of my life on this earth and regret that I didn't go on these types of adventures simply because I didn't want to travel alone. I won't be lonely (there will be nearly 4,000 people on this ship, not counting crew), but can spend time alone if I want to. I'm taking some of my favorite outfits, simply because they make me feel good when I wear them. I will not make myself up simply to impress the men, but because I take pride in how I look and want to feel beautiful and confident as I walk around the ship. This is my trip and I plan on making the most of it--my way.

With the men, there will be no expectations, therefore no disappointments. I won't avoid them, but I will guard my heart, not letting any of them get too close to me nor letting myself get too close to them right now. I just can't deal with any more  hurt. I want this vacation to be relaxing and fun, not filled with drama.

One thing I did decide to splurge on for this cruise is a pass to the ship's thermal spa. It'll be a great way to wind down after a workout or just to relax at any other time. It's supposed to be quiet and its out of the direct sun, so I don't have to worry so much about getting sunburned. Just looking at the pictures of this place starts to put me in a relaxed state. I can only imagine what I will feel like when I actually show up in person!

http://www.iceportal.com/brochures/ice/brochure.aspx?brochureid=ICE17468&type=vr&did=3719&lang=en&index=22

This link is a 360 view so you can see for yourself. :)

I'm headed towards Miami in less than 48 hours! Can't wait!

It's almost time to "Getaway"!

In my last post, I mentioned that I will be going on a cruise very soon and I'm so excited! The ship that I will be be going on is the Norwegian Getaway out of Miami and she looks to be a pretty awesome ship! Here's a link so you see it for yourself:

http://www.ncl.com/cruise-ship/getaway

One of the things that makes her unique among most other cruise ships is that she offers a cabin option called the Studio cabin, which is a cabin specifically designed for one person. If you're family with cruise ships and their pricing structure, for a single person not wishing to share their cabin, the cruse lines will charge a single supplement, which can make cruising really expensive for solo travellers. With the Studio cabins, there is no supplement, making it more affordable. For me, it was the least expensive option. I had cruised on NCL before and had really liked it, so I was in!

A plus that comes with the Studio cabins is the exclusive Studio Lounge connected to them. It's a way to help the solo travellers connect with each other. One hour each afternoon is set aside as the happy hour where a crew member will be present to organize dinner and show reservations for those singles who want to go as a group, as well as other singles activities.

I've already been in contact with some of the people who will be on the ship at the same time as I through a Roll Call thread on the Cruise Critic website: http://boards.cruisecritic.com. We plan on having a meetup on Sunday so that we can all meet in person. There are a wide variety of people that will be there, including another Aspie (someone who has Asperger's Syndrome) like myself. In the wild, I generally don't meet very many people who will come right out and admit that they have AS. I hope to talk more with him and compare notes and perhaps strike up a friendship. While I'm blessed to have a few good neurotypical friends and family who are very tolerant of my Aspie quirks, it would be nice to talk with someone who lives with it like I do and understands it from that perspective.

I hope I'll have time to share a little more of my excitement before I leave, but if I don't, I definitely will after I get home. :)

Directions, please!

At this point, I feel as if this chapter of my life is ending and a new one is about to begin. I have no clue where it will take me. I just hope I'm ready. 

The chapter that I'm closing out is what I call the divorce and aftermath chapter, which started when I made the decision to leave my now-ex and spans the period up until now.

Things are definitely shifting. Over the past nearly 18 months, much of my personal and spiritual growth has been about healing. I've now reached a point where this growth is becoming less and less about healing and more about expanding my horizons. It's a place I've never really been before. It's exciting and a bit scary.

While I do have a few general goals in mind for the next 2-3 years, I honestly don't have an overall direction for my life yet. There are some things that I would like to see happen, but whether or not they happen is mostly out of my control. There are those things that are in my control, but I don't yet have enough information to confidently make a good decision.

At this point, all I can do is to ask God for direction and trust that He'll give it to me when the time is right. I just need to keep an open mind to whatever He has in store for me.

A week from this Saturday, I will be getting on a cruise ship for a week of fun. I will make new friends. I will celebrate my birthday during that week. I will also be celebrating the beginning of this new chapter in my life story.

What a difference a year makes...

It's been over a year since I last blogged, but it's now time for me to dust it off.

So much has happened in the last year that it's hard to put it into one blog post, but I will give you a quick summary, complete with bullet points:

--I thought I had found the love I was looking for; he later broke my heart.

--I danced in a West Coast Swing competition.

--I survived a really bad performance review at work and fought my way back into my boss's good graces.

--I learned to like being alone.

--In response to a bad doctor's report, I cleaned up my diet and took up running.

--I took a solo vacation and I loved it!

--I was able to shed a lot of the emotional baggage that I had accumulated before and during my marriage.

This past year was about having faith, being brave, overcoming, and becoming stronger.

In future posts, I will elaborate more on the above list, as well as share some exciting upcoming happenings. Stay tuned! :)